back to the start of silent consent

I was going there
with this post
but then I thought of all the people who would find out the private pain
and the family members who didn’t know will judge
and all the people who gave the demons to me to fight
will still not accept their part in it
and apologize

maybe I’m not ready to let go
because it feels so comfortable
holding it in
as an excuse
as a justification
a scar that tries to heal
but I won’t let it

am I ready to forgive
Him him him her and her
and me
the truth is I’ve lived half my life
not knowing that I could control what would greet me as I turned the corner to my street on my travel home after school
powerlessness and pride

I’m still a little afraid to let go of the fear I have  for him
I’m also relieved that he can’t hurt me with his eyes and curse me with his lips
not anymore
I still procrastinate (fear)

if they all knew they would judge her
and I won’t have anyone talk bad about my Mama
I believe to my soul that good parents do the best they can at the time
the only rules in the book are the ones they make up
because each child is different and my Mamas rule book won’t work for you

get ready
I will release it
and I will be free

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The porch does not mean the bottom step

I loved my Papa
and he loved me
so much that he’d let me sit on his lap
while he relaxed on the back porch
with his whiskey and pipe

Papa was the tall dark and handsome man in my life
he always wore a dark blue mechanics suit
buttoned halfway to show his white shirt or long johns
I never saw him in a pair of sneakers

My Granny would cook breakfast for us
bacon, eggs, grits, sausage biscuits and pancakes
with a bowl of cereal for me
he sat at the head of the table and
I sat next to him by the window facing the driveway
he never ate all of his food
only a few bites
he let me eat his bacon
until I was too full to finish my own food

he didn’t talk much
but his intentions were clear
in the few words he spoke to anyone
the longest conversation I ever heard him have
was with Mr. Berry
his friend would stop by
and give me silver coins
Papa talked and laughed with him on the front steps
I couldn’t understand what they said because
Papa ordered me back in the house
kids shouldn’t be in grown folks business

Papa always had a serious look on his face but
I could tell when he was happy
he smiled with actions
holding me tight
listening to his heartbeat
keeping him company as he tended his garden
standing close to him as he lit firecrackers for the 4th
riding in the front seat of his station wagon
to the hostess cake store down Central across Warren
I had my own sweet cakes
the breadbox on the back porch was his sweet cakes hiding place
if I ever touched them he would put a switch to my butt

I never wanted to make him mad at me
little people are sometimes hardheaded
he always watched whenever I played outside
when he couldn’t watch Papa would say
“stay on the porch”

the porch was painted gray wood that stretched across the front of the two story house
on the side closest to the open field was Granny’s white metal rocking chair
I always sat in the wooden chairs that lined the side closest to Mr. Jones’ house
the steps were five down with a cement step at the end of the walkway before the sidewalk

I did sit on the porch but the tall bushes in front made it hard for me to see
So I sat on the top step
Then slid to the next step
The bushes blocked my view even more on the bottom step
I decided that if I sat on the cement step at the end of the walkway
I could see down the block to Mr. Craig and all the way to the Bowens

I didn’t  make it to the walkway
Papas arm was raised with a switch from the tree in the backyard
“The porch is not the steps”

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It won’t let me hold my peace

Wigs were normal
even though I was five
I understood a woman and her beauty
Mama had a black curly wig that she only wore to church
she wore her real hair the other days

she would keep bobby pins on the bedroom dresser
one pin on the left
one on the right
one in the front and
one in the back
she said this would keep her
wig in place

my second memory of church
was in a storefront building with cold metal chairs
my legs were too short to touch the cross bar
I concentrated real hard on trying to reach them
there was loud screeching from the speakers
I could not tell who it was
Mama was swaying from side to side in front of me
echoing back at the sounds

the organ music sounded nothing like Papas in his basement
I wanted to fall asleep but
Mama said no
she would nudge me awake every time I would doze off people were jumping and speaking jibber jabber In the aisles

I wasn’t scared
because I saw Mama was ok
until her swaying turned to jumping and her echo changed to screeching and her wig went to flying
curls and all across the room
my eyes shifted from the curls on the floor back to Mamas head
no bobby pins remained

I wondered if I should pick it up but
a lady who was dressed like a hospital nurse
grabbed it up shook it out and handed it back to Mama when she sat down
I don’t remember her being embarrassed at all
she just patted her face with a tissue
trying to catch her breath as she shouted out

“It just won’t let me hold my peace”
probably because almost all the mamas wigs flew off every Sunday
I guess because wigs were normal

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white Cadillac white hands

My first remembrance of church was of the ride there
Mama wore white
I wore white
we waited downstairs to be picked up

“Here she comes, let’s go”,
Mama grabbed my hand
walked me to the curb
my eyes squinted
the sun rays blinded my view
the bright white and long
car pulled in front of us

we climbed in and sat on the long back seat
Mama squeezed me close to her
from the drivers seat in front of us
creamy white skin
long wavy black hair spun around
her pretty face smiled at me.

“Love and peace sister”
“Love and peace Pastor” Mama answered back
this white colored lady reached out her white hand
to my chubby brown cheek and squeezed
later I told Mama that I didn’t know there were colored ladies whiter than my Granny
With funny names like Pastor

Mama said Pastor was what we had to call her because she was our leader now
up until now she was leading herself and getting into a whole lot of trouble
now she needed to be led by a servant of God

those soft white hands that squeezed my cheek on our first meeting
faded as did her smile
I would become better acquainted with her hand as time went on

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two men and an army nurse

Cold metal braces on my chubby toddler legs
Mama said I would kick her in the night while I slept
Not this night though
I listened to her breath
Mixed with low whispers
the weight of our blanket lay heavy over me

Why didn’t Mama hear them
The hallway floor creaked from the walking
I shut my eyes as tight as I could because the steps came closer to our open bedroom door
Terror covers me and I promised myself that I would only open my eyes a little bit
This way they would think I was sleeping

I saw the shadows in the
Doorway
The first man short and round
The other man tall and thin
Both with Afros
They could see me
In the silence all I could hear was my beating heart

I’m not sure if Mama ever woke
But they eventually disappeared and I struggled awake to Char’s voice telling Mama that she smelled so good
I guess she scared the shadows away for me
She protected us
After all she was in the army

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fire, rats, love

we lived on the top floor of
Linsdale apartments in 1974
no elevator
many flights of stairs
long dark hallway at the top
she pulled me through darkness
to the last apartment on the left
I wasn’t scared though.
Mama tightened her grip of my hand

many nights I climbed on Mama
while she talked on the phone
i put barrettes in her hair
she was so sweet to me
I was a good girl
she says now that she
doesn’t know what happened
to her Tweety baby

she screamed whenever she
sees a critter on the floor
she wouldn’t let me look
she was terrified
from my high chair
I saw only a long mop string
hanging from under the stove
it was a rat tail

Papa came over to trap him
and throw him away
the things daddy’s do for their baby girls

I wake to The blare of sirens
Mama says there is a fire across the hall
she carries me down to the street
we watch as the flame blazes out of the top floor windows
who lived there
we never talked to them
I’m scared
Mama says it’s safe to go back in
the fire is out
I’m scared
My Papa comes to get me

This is what daddy’s do for their baby girls

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i do remember

I do remember
five months old
the yellow baby swing
sitting in Granny’s dining room
Mama would wind
and I would swing
until I fell asleep

nine months old
propped up in the corner
gold plastic covered couch
in Granny’s living room
mint green walls dark brown trim
I’m laughing hysterically at
Tookie, he plays peek a boo
as his short toddler legs run
back and forth
I cried when auntie took him home

charlie Brown wallpaper
seen from my bubble
and my auntie Syl sang lullaby
as pneumonia escaped my lungs
she loved me then
even though I was Papa’s favorite.

somewhere between two and four
we lived in a flat on Taylor and Linwood
Char was my favorite toy
Mama loved her and she was always there for us
but she couldn’t save me from the whipping
when I walked onto Linwood alone.

Mama drank her last beer
and smoked her last cigarette on Bryden
she found God
the church
she got saved

I do remember my life changed

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he’s with the band

he’s with the band
taking charge of his destiny
living the good life
his life
drinking top shelf
smoking the best
maybe he’s poppin the vein
I have no point of reference

Mama moved on
she said he was a drummer
with the the band of funk
she danced on tables
shot and chased folks
with machetes back then

drum set sitting in my
elementary bedroom
short sticks
green snare
maybe red
I don’t quite remember
the foot pedal
just the constant beat of the drum
when she wanted to hear it

I played
not knowing
he must have been there
he must have bought it for me
wouldn’t she hate drums
and him

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Born

Born
Day is a happy day for ma
An angry day too
Nine months of waiting
Praying that today
He would come through

A secret she’ll keep
If he doesn’t show
Because no one will care
If she suffers alone

She said she told him
About born day
And that he had a choice
But he never walked past
Her room or glanced in
Nursery

What’s the secret?
They all refuse to tell me
So I speculate
And dream about
And cry
As old as I am
I wonder why

Only one precious memory
From born day
Me

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